Mad Like Alyce

In my last post on Giving up on the idea of “career“, I discussed why I am letting go of the idea that I have any control over my career, and I am going to stop killing myself for jobs that aren’t healthy. Even good employers will always keep their business goals at the forefront… as they should! The mistake we make is that we get our self worth caught up in it all, when really it often has nothing to do with us at all. I’d been giving this a lot of thought, when I ran across this article on Bright Side called “Why Generation Y Is Unhappy.”

While there are parts of this article that I didn’t always feel applied, the general concepts rang true, and I loved the inclusion of Unicorns in the infographics. I think some of my abrasion comes from the tone of the article, which leads me to believe it might not have been written by a Gen Y, but perhaps a Gen X’er, and it felt a slight bit accusatory. That, or identifying with the Gen Y, I might have felt slightly defensive until I was well into the article. Either way, the crux of the article rings true.

The Happiness Equation

The concept breaks it down to a simple equation.

Happiness = Reality – Expectations.

It goes on to describe the construction of the Gen Y’ers family, constructed of WW2 grandparents, their baby boomer parents, and themselves and how the upbringing and culture of each generation has shaped the world of the Gen Y’er and how their parent’s lives and careers have shaped their expectations. How these expectations are incredibly ambitious, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing… but that it can ultimately have detrimental effects on our overall happiness.

Perception of Reality

The next part grated a little, as it discussed how as part of Gen Y, we were told we are “special”. I wanted to refute it, but it is true. My parents have always pushed me to never settle, to push forward, and been incredibly proud of my accomplishments. Accomplishments I had striven for since I am ambitious. Ugh… ok so it was a liiiiiittle bit true.

While I don’t feel I myself have quite as extreme of a perception as the case depicted in the article, the concept is sound. Even in college, we had this pressure to get out of school and conquer the world. This pressure to get married right out of college, buy a house, look successful. And with each success… we post it on Facebook. All of the positives, the accomplishments, we share. The downsides of being a 20-something young professional are left out. I would joke about how I would buy a bottle of wine every payday, pop the cork, and use it to wash away the tears as I paid my bills, but you certainly wouldn’t find any mention of that struggle on social media. Kidding aside, being fresh out of college is not easy, and the idea that it somehow should be easier by the time we are 30 is a dream.

I’m not trying to be a downer, rather, I’m just accepting that I have bought into that illusion… the pressure that I put on myself to be accomplished by now. The article uses great graphical representation to illustrate the feelings of inadequacy brought on by this constant comparison.

My Interpretation

This ties very nicely in with the feelings I have had as of late. Feelings that I am not living up to my parent’s expectations. To my own expectations. That my friends will pity me for not living up to these “goals”. Yet, pushing and striving towards these goals that I have sub-consciously created for myself didn’t make me happy. What I am starting to realize is that I’ve built goals based on what other people have expected from me, but not based on what makes ME happy. Working towards a goal that is not my own will never lead me towards happiness, and while I am not sure where that leaves me now, I know that I am still ambitious. I am still driven. But if I can re-direct those energies towards goals of my own creation, goals that will ultimately make me happy, I will be far more successful in my own eyes.

I’m not afraid of working hard. I’m not afraid of the daily grind… as long as I can live life for myself… with a few regrets as possible. You may not identify with this article. You might not agree you fit this profile, but I do think that there is a bit of truth, however small, about how we are not necessarily living our lives for ourselves but for the perceptions of others. If we can shift our perceptions, we can all come ahead on the equation of happiness.


Hi! I'm Alyce.
Welcome to my journey towards living a happier and healthier life while living with PTSD and chronic pain... and never letting it keep me from my passion for Halloween, cooking, and way too many DIY projects... all at the same time!

Costume & Makeup Tutorials


  • I should be in bed, but instead I'm fighting sleep and fooling around on Photoshop. This is a mirrored version to complete a full face. I have my makeup out and ready for a new look, but have nothing left in the tank today, so here's my last Gwen Dylan... for now ;)
Also, I forget how asymmetrical our faces can be until you flip a photo, or in this case, mirror it. Even just flipping it looked so strange to me!
  • I’m having waaaayyyy to much fun with this one, and it’s just the makeup! I think I might have to start this cosplay this weekend... what’s a good material to use to make a fake shovel blade? I’m a nube when it comes to fabrication, so any and all advice is welcome!
  • You GUYS this might have moved to my favorite makeup of all time. Gwen Dylan, inspired by the cover of iZombie: Dead to the World. I think I might have to make this a full scale cosplay, what do you think?

The zombie half was created using @mehronmakeup water paints. Wig is from @ardawigs (I think it is the Magnum Long Classic in Titanium Blonde). Eyes were photoshopped to match the comic book cover.
  • You may know of Liv Moore, but do you know who Gwen Dylan? You guys, i'm really really pleased with how this turned out! Modeled after the cover of iZombie: Dead to the World, Gwen Dylan is the original iZombie heroine, a revenant zombie that must eat brains once per month to retain her mind, which is easy, seeing as she is a gravedigger. 
The zombie half was created using @mehronmakeup  water paints. Wig is from @ardawigs (I think it is the Magnum Long Classic in Titanium Blonde). Eyes were photoshopped to match the cover.
  • Some like it hot! Unlike Liv Moore in iZombie, I would get some pretty bad heartburn, but that doesn't stop me from adding Sriracha. I think the most disturbing part of this picture is that even though I added white to the foundation to get that "ultra pale" look, you still can hardly see the difference between my face and hands... sigh. #palelife #zombie
  • When you get those late night munchies... Another look at this Full On Zombie Liv Moore from iZombie. The more I look at this, the more I love it... why do I procrastinate in posting things for so long?!? I've got a few blog posts in the works for projects that I started last year! I should hopefully have more things up in the near future. In the meantime, bon appetit.
  • Happy Valentines Day! I'll always love you for your BRAINS!!!
I did this iZombie Liv Moore in Full-On Zombie back before my surgery and just haven't gotten around to posting until now! I had wanted to come up with some kind of Valentines day themed look to kick me back into things now that my arm is mostly functional, but I was just struggling to think of what I wanted to do. Valentines Day is just not my thing. Unless there is chocolate. I Digress.
Halfway into my glass of wine, I realized this was the perfect time to post this look. I technically have a video, but the jury is still out on whether or not to post it just yet. I'm mostly just glad to be at a point where I can start experimenting with makeup again!
  • Anybody else struggle this time of year? I’m looking at these lovely sunbeams from my Alice In Wonderland shoot this summer to bring some sunshine to my day. I’ll be doing just fine, then be lying on the couch trying to feel like I can breathe again. I know it is ok, and these increased symptoms will pass, but it’s certainly not fun, especially when I have projects and ideas id like to tackle, but can’t get past this paralyzing anxiety. What do you guys use to help with SADD? #SADD #anxiety #ptsd #seasonaldepression  #winteristheworst #whydoilivehere
  • Halfway done! Still a ton to do, and I’ve learned ALOT already, like how not to sew in an invisible zipper, that I need a seam ripper, and need to invest in real fabric shears. But it’s actually coming together! Having never used a pattern before, I admit I looked at the pile of paper with some skepticism. Also, it kind of matches my couch. 😂 #cosplay #sewing #mccallspatterns #mccalls #mccallscosplay #spacesuit #plussizecosplay


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