Mad Like Alyce

In my last post on Giving up on the idea of “career“, I discussed why I am letting go of the idea that I have any control over my career, and I am going to stop killing myself for jobs that aren’t healthy. Even good employers will always keep their business goals at the forefront… as they should! The mistake we make is that we get our self worth caught up in it all, when really it often has nothing to do with us at all. I’d been giving this a lot of thought, when I ran across this article on Bright Side called “Why Generation Y Is Unhappy.”

While there are parts of this article that I didn’t always feel applied, the general concepts rang true, and I loved the inclusion of Unicorns in the infographics. I think some of my abrasion comes from the tone of the article, which leads me to believe it might not have been written by a Gen Y, but perhaps a Gen X’er, and it felt a slight bit accusatory. That, or identifying with the Gen Y, I might have felt slightly defensive until I was well into the article. Either way, the crux of the article rings true.

The Happiness Equation

The concept breaks it down to a simple equation.

Happiness = Reality – Expectations.

It goes on to describe the construction of the Gen Y’ers family, constructed of WW2 grandparents, their baby boomer parents, and themselves and how the upbringing and culture of each generation has shaped the world of the Gen Y’er and how their parent’s lives and careers have shaped their expectations. How these expectations are incredibly ambitious, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing… but that it can ultimately have detrimental effects on our overall happiness.

Perception of Reality

The next part grated a little, as it discussed how as part of Gen Y, we were told we are “special”. I wanted to refute it, but it is true. My parents have always pushed me to never settle, to push forward, and been incredibly proud of my accomplishments. Accomplishments I had striven for since I am ambitious. Ugh… ok so it was a liiiiiittle bit true.

While I don’t feel I myself have quite as extreme of a perception as the case depicted in the article, the concept is sound. Even in college, we had this pressure to get out of school and conquer the world. This pressure to get married right out of college, buy a house, look successful. And with each success… we post it on Facebook. All of the positives, the accomplishments, we share. The downsides of being a 20-something young professional are left out. I would joke about how I would buy a bottle of wine every payday, pop the cork, and use it to wash away the tears as I paid my bills, but you certainly wouldn’t find any mention of that struggle on social media. Kidding aside, being fresh out of college is not easy, and the idea that it somehow should be easier by the time we are 30 is a dream.

I’m not trying to be a downer, rather, I’m just accepting that I have bought into that illusion… the pressure that I put on myself to be accomplished by now. The article uses great graphical representation to illustrate the feelings of inadequacy brought on by this constant comparison.

My Interpretation

This ties very nicely in with the feelings I have had as of late. Feelings that I am not living up to my parent’s expectations. To my own expectations. That my friends will pity me for not living up to these “goals”. Yet, pushing and striving towards these goals that I have sub-consciously created for myself didn’t make me happy. What I am starting to realize is that I’ve built goals based on what other people have expected from me, but not based on what makes ME happy. Working towards a goal that is not my own will never lead me towards happiness, and while I am not sure where that leaves me now, I know that I am still ambitious. I am still driven. But if I can re-direct those energies towards goals of my own creation, goals that will ultimately make me happy, I will be far more successful in my own eyes.

I’m not afraid of working hard. I’m not afraid of the daily grind… as long as I can live life for myself… with a few regrets as possible. You may not identify with this article. You might not agree you fit this profile, but I do think that there is a bit of truth, however small, about how we are not necessarily living our lives for ourselves but for the perceptions of others. If we can shift our perceptions, we can all come ahead on the equation of happiness.

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Hi! I'm Alyce.
Welcome to my journey towards living a happier and healthier life while living with PTSD and chronic pain... and never letting it keep me from my passion for Halloween, cooking, and way too many DIY projects... all at the same time!

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  • “I got an early parole, only here to say hi.” Can’t stop Shego feom@coming back atcha! Ok, serious question, who wants to see a glam Dr. Drakken? #kimpossible #shego #halloween
  • Got to work with my sister on a test makeup for her Halloween costume and we both did Shego makeup together! I know she has black hair, but my only black wig just wasn’t working. She did fantastic for her first time! #shego #kimpossible #sistermakeup
  • When you are so busy with #hauntlife you forget you have Instagram. I’m pulling together a video shoot for our haunt trailer video and an #sfxmakeup internship for aspiring artists. I sleep too, sometimes.
  • William Faulkner said to “it’s hard to kill your darlings” meaning it can be difficult to critique your own work, especially if you put a lot into it. Stephen King went on to say you should put your work away for six months to a year before editing so you can clearly evaluate. I’m really glad I looked back at this one. Even without the wig, I think it’s striking. #hauntmua #sfxmua #stevenkingismyhero #skullmakeup
  • I’m going through old pictures and ran across this one. I remember not really being happy with this look, and sure, the lines could have been cleaner, but I still really like this! I think we should always go back and look at work a year later... even if it really want good, it shows us just how far we have come in so little time. #skullmakeup #hauntmua #sfxmua #personalgrowth
  • I often do a look that I’m just not all that happy with afterwards, as is with this “halfway to Halloween” clown I created back in.... May? Looking at it now, I don’t know what it is exactly it was that I didn’t like... maybe I just needed a orange wig? I almost like a progress pic more than the finished product. What do you think?#clowns #clownmakeup
  • Throwback to my first actual clown makeup! The eye shapes were inspired by a few looks by @totalnightmaretravis, and i was incredibly excited about this wig! The Rhapsody Short by @rockstarwigs is probably the most fun wig to wear that I currently own. I only have red, but am heavily considering another color for my collection.
Happy National Clown Week! #justclowningaround #clowns #scaryclowns
  • Happy National Clown Week! A year ago, I wasn’t a big fan of clowns, but I practiced so many clown makeups that I eventually came to find them to be one of my favorites, and even created my own clown character. This is the first actual clown makeup I recreated based on @grave_digger_the_clown for last year’s haunt. Turned out a lot prettier than he is, no? 😉
#clownsofinstagram #hauntmua #clownmakeup #clowns
  • One last look at this (insightful? Revealing?) makeup! I actually really loved the eyes by themselves, and they took a good 2 hours themselves. A good challenge in trying to make a flat art of round objects translated on a curved surface! #eyeseeyou #eyeball #eyes #makeupartist #inspiredbyart
Facepaint is a recreation of art by @xsullo

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